Until the age of twenty-one, we do everything possible to look older than we are, the older we can make ourselves look the more we get to do and the happier we are. Sometime after turning twenty-one we stop trying to look older, we don’t have to try anymore it is happening every day without our help. Then one day, as we pass a mirror and catch a glimpse of our reflection we realize that we look different than we did as kids and we start to wonder if it is a good thing or a bad thing. Suddenly we start doing things that take us back to feeling like we did before we got older and that seems to help take our minds off of our looks. Then, before we know it, we find ourselves in the very odd place of trying to look younger.
When we first notice this new feeling it is still unclear why we are feeling this way in the first place. It could be a lot of things, maybe our kids our getting older. Maybe we stopped carded to buy alcohol. Maybe we noticed a few grey hairs or lines on our faces that never used to be there before. Whatever the reason, all that is a hundred percent clear is that we don’t want to look our age, we want to look younger.
Our first instinct will probably be to dress younger than we are, or how we used to dress. This younger way of dressing will probably leak into the music we listen to, the way we speak, and the things we do for fun. For a while we will imagine that these things are really making us look younger. Eventually these things will stop having the effect of making us feel or look younger, it fact, they can end up making us just feel stupid. It’s not that we can’t look younger, it’s because wearing clothes and doing things that are no longer our style robs us of our confidence and that is very aging. We cannot get away from the fact that we have changed in many ways over the years, and that includes our tastes in clothes and everything else.
This doesn’t mean that we have to accept looking older than we feel and do nothing about it. It is a fact that the way we look affects the way feel, and the way we feel affects the way we look. So it is not something we should just ignore and not bother taking an interest in. But how else can somebody look younger than they are without dressing and acting the part.
Becoming completely comfortable with who we are and who we’ve become, and having complete acceptance of ourselves is the best place to start. This takes years off our face and soul. Anybody who appears uncomfortable with their age looks even older than they are. Dressing to impress ourselves is the next vital step. Chances are we still have some of our old style with us from our younger selves. There are parts of our personalities that never go away completely, and we should let them find their place in our new style. Age really is just a number and we are a lot more than the numbers in our age. Staying true to ourselves and never trying to go back in time or be what somebody else is will be a beautiful thing at any age.